When disciplining children, it’s good to have many options. After all, children behave in a variety of ways! In fact, you can even use several methods at once. Here are some helpful approaches:
- Stay calm. Think before you act. Take time to listen to your child about why the homework didn’t get turned in or the chores didn’t get done.
- Be loving. This doesn’t mean you have to be lenient. Respectful firmness is important, but don’t be intimidating.
- Give compliments. Think of your relationship as a blank account. Your “deposits” (compliments) should far exceed your “withdrawals” (criticisms). If your child does a great job turning in assignments, notice it!
- Take charge. Stand up for your values through actions and words. Don’t struggle over minor issues.
- Don’t give in. When you’ve made a good rule or decision, stick to it! This sends your child a clear, reliable message.
- Imagine. Ask yourself, “How will my child and I look back on this? Make discipline choices you’ll be proud of later.
- Forgive. No one is perfect. Mistakes are opportunities to learn. Don’t be too hard on yourself or your child.
- Have patience. Progress rarely happens right away. Give discipline time. Be proud that you’re both trying!
http://www.extension.umn.edu/family/W00014.html Source: Rose Allen, â€œParenting Tools: Tips for Using Discipline,â€ University of Minnesota Extension Service.